“What a (wo)man can be, (s)he must be. This need we may call self-actualization…It refers to the desire for self-fulfillment, namely, to the tendency for him (/her) to become actualized in what (s)he is potentially. This tendency might be phrased as the desire to become more and more what one is, to become everything that one is capable of becoming.” ~ Abraham Maslow
You may never 100% overcome anxiety and depression. I consider myself to be a happy person, but I still have times of uncertainty or sadness. That’s human nature. But I know that you can feel happy 80% of the time. And I know that you don’t need a medication to do so.
The need for a medication is determined in the most part by a test: blood work or a CAT scan for example. If your blood work shows elevated thyroid stimulating hormone, then the doctor prescribes a certain medication to treat that. For psychotropic drugs (anti-depressants, mood stabilizers, anti-anxiety meds, etc.) there are no objective tests! It’s simply the opinion of the doctor that this drug may benefit you. There’s also no way to determine if it is working or helping. The “placebo effect” (roughly 31%) is about the effectiveness rate of antidepressants (32%) based on double-blind studies!
To truly overcome mood disorders, there are several factors. There is no “magic pill” for fixing these problems. We need to view the entire landscape of your life.
Often – but not always – I find that someone suffering with anxiety or depression has some serious negative self-talk. Signs of this are over-apologizing; giving up on goals and dreams before they are even tried out; fear of the new or different; or ruminating about things that are already over and done with and don’t matter any more. Too many regrets.
Looking too much at the past will make you neurotic; looking too much at what’s going on now will make you psychotic. Focus on the future!
To overcome a mood disorder, we need to determine:
1. Where you’ve been
2. Where you want to go
3. What’s going on with you now. How are you communicating to yourself, to others; what words and phrases are on repeat? How is your body language and health?
I focus on improving how you feel presently so your future can be more pleasant!
How does food fit into this picture? Are you using food to nourish your body or to escape? Are you eating the same things every day? Do you crave vegetables? Do you try new things? How rigid or flexible is your diet? Do you deny yourself pleasure? Or do you use food as your sole source of pleasure?
Are you using movement regularly to balance your body? Do you feel “stuck?” Do you have chronic pain? Do you ever find yourself holding your breath? Are there some things you “can’t” do? Why?
What are you excited about? What are you looking forward to doing? Who do you love? Is there love in your life? Do you get to spend enough time with the ones you love? Do you spend time with people who make you laugh? Do you laugh regularly?
Money. There’s a big topic. How are your finances? Are they keeping you up at night? Are you addicted to shopping? Do you have savings? Do you feel like you have enough? Do you balance your home and work life? Are you thankful for what you have?
All of these areas play into what’s going on. Your body, diet, and movement; your mental “talk”; the people in your life.
In Relaxation Camp, we analyze all of these areas. Step-by-step I will walk you through areas that you may be stuck. Areas that can enhance your growth as a person.
First and most importantly, we look at your mental self-talk. Just by changing how you communicate in your head you can start to change your life. It sounds ridiculously simple; and it kind of is. We all occasionally slip into a “poor me” self-talk mode, or “how-dare-he” mode, but the trick and the key to happiness is pulling yourself out of it as soon as you catch yourself. Thinking negatively serves no one.
“Yeah, but Nicole, life is rough. It’s unrealistic to not think that negative things can and do happen.”
True. But why spend too much time thinking about it? Why not focus attention on things that you want; your desires; the fun stuff! You can handle the bad stuff, but focus on the good stuff.
Next, we address your environment. Who plays the big roles in your life and how that can affect your and how you can affect them; how is your work life and how can you find your dream job; and finances – feeling like you have enough to take care of your needs and maybe a little more!
Finally, we look at your body and health. Of course, as a medical professional, this is my area of expertise. We will address the body-mind-spirit axis and the relationship between your gut and your brain. This is huge. If your gut is imbalanced, your mind and spirit will not be comfortable. (A recommended book to read “Grain Brain”)
O.M.G. This is going to be huge. I can’t wait! More info to come.