A New Season for Healing

Do you see the bee inside???

 

On my daughter’s birthday morning I saw a text from my best friend that her husband was in a coma and they were pulling the plug the next week.  His chances of recovery were not good and he wouldn’t have wanted to live like that.  I was devastated.  I also loved this man as he had been in our lives for nearly 20 years. 
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That must be the hardest part of growing older, is witnessing your friends dying.  After a couple of days with lots of tears and lazing around watching cat videos, I knew I had to make a decision.  In sadness, it’s easy to stay in that mood.  It’s like a swamp you can get stuck in.  No; I had to try to find happiness again. 
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I didn’t try to stifle the grief; I respect the moments of grief.  Like when your mind takes a trip down memory lane and you realize that was it.  It will never happen like that again. 
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Like when we watched people go off the diving board at Barton Springs one time.  We would give each person a “walk up song,” kind of like what they do for MMA fighters before a match.  “That guy is a Metallica song, for sure.  No, Def Leppard.”  “I’m thinking ‘Rhiannon’ by Fleetwood Mac.”  “Yes, perfect!”  
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Jon would also send texts to me with the most random, funny things, like a photo of a guy crossing the road (in LA) holding a whole, live rooster, or that he had “asked for, and received the senior discount at El Pollo Loco.” (Jon was not a senior.)
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He would also send beautiful pictures of sunsets or a nice cup of coffee he’s enjoying.
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My daughter asked me, “Are you crying again!?  You have other friends, you know.”  (She’s only 6.)  “Wow, Lily,” I replied, “You are rough company!” 
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In Chinese medicine, all the emotions and seasons connect with an organ system.  Grief and sadness connect with the Lungs.  Autumn is also connected with the Lungs.  It’s a good time of year to express pent up sadness and heal your Lungs.  In the 5 elements system of balance, the Lungs represent Metal, which is “controlled” by Fire.  Fire melts Metal, right?  The Fire element is represented in your Heart *(emotional and mental Heart) and by the emotion of Joy. 
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It’s considered within the laws of nature to allow the Joy to “control” the Sadness.  Sadness can sweep you away, like a flooded current, unexpectedly, and that needs to be respected.  But once you land on shore, you need to decide to choose Joy and not jump back in to the current.  That’s what your loved ones would want for you.
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