If you’re like most people and your New Year’s resolution is to “lose weight,” I implore you with one slight change.  Because, really, how exactly does one just “lose weight?”

There’s no weight loss knob to turn on at night (“Excuse me, sweetie, I’m just going to lose a little weight and I’ll be right to bed.”) and there is no magic weight loss pill to take (and lord knows they’ve tried).

Your subconscious mind can only take action on positives.  

In other words, if I told you to NOT think of a blue goat, what do you instantly think of?

Remember do NOT think of a blue goat.  Got it?  


Your subconscious – where all your actions take root and gain momentum – has no idea what “NO” and “DON’T” mean.

So you go to work and there’s doughnuts in the break room.  “DON’T eat them!” you tell your subconscious mind.  “Ha!” says your conscious mind.  “Doughnuts are there and I will eat them.”  

The same situations happen when you make carb-leaden foods for your kids that they only eat a few bites of.  “Well, normally those foods are not on my diet, but since they’re just sitting here getting ‘wasted,’ … don’t mind if I do!”

OR how about when you’re at a party.  “Would you like to have another drink?”  “Heck, yeah, I want to have another drink!”  Why the heck not?!

You haven’t given yourself a reason to make healthy choices.  All you know is what you don’t want.  

So…this ever-elusive “weight loss” never really takes shape, so to say.

When you tell your body or your subconscious to “lose weight,” all this does is stress YOU out.  

If you “need to lose weight,” the go-to response is to deprive yourself.  

Deprivation never works.  No-body wants to feel deprived.  

After doing that for a while, you splurge.  Then you feel bad, and the cycle goes on and on. 

Here’s what I’m proposing to do instead:

Tell yourself that you’re only going to put things into your body that are good for her / him.  

This will work because it will withstand each possible paradigm of diet sabotage.  

For example, the doughnuts in the office:  “No, thanks.  I already had a healthy breakfast, and I’m just not hungry right now.  (and even if I was hungry, I’d find something other than doughtnuts!)”

Another example is when you’re out drinking.  “Do I want another drink? hmmm…well, I’m having a lot of fun, but I don’t think having another drink will necessarily enhance the amount of fun I’m having, so I’m going to pass.  But I’ll take a water!”  

Your kids left-overs?  “This is not the quality of food I’m wanting for my body, so I’m just going to trash these (or save in the fridge for them for later), and make myself a nice cup of soup.”  

Now what about the small, occasional indulgence?  

A glass of wine or some dark chocolate?  YES!  By all means, if that’s what your body wants to feel good, then I think some quality indulgences in reasonable amounts is perfectly healthy.  I also think we all have an inner voice that tells us when it’s too much.  We just need to listen.  

What is good for you?

  • Quality foods / drinks
  • The right quantity of food / drink
  • The right quantity and quality at the right time; as in – when you’re actually hungry.

Just ask yourself:  “Is this good for me right now, or is it harmful?”  No-body really knows better than your own.  

So, enjoy, and don’t judge.  What’s good for you one day is not good for someone else, and vice versa.  

Happy New Year!